How to deal with a depressed life

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Suicide should never be an option. Yes, the challenges are real. Life can be so hard, and patience wears out. And it can happen to the rich ones too. In fact, suicide is more frequent in the rich than the poor. It is indeed easy to lose the willingness to live and death then looks more appealing.

We as human beings, are pushed by two things. Fear and hope. Both should reside inside us in perfect harmony, lest we fall head-first into self destruction.

Fear is necessary, since it makes us smarter by making us identify the important things in life. You are in a job because you fear being broke. You wear clothes because of the fear of exposure. You eat food because you fear hunger and malnutrition. Clearly, fear is a driving tool for humanity amd without it, we would be different creatures all together.

Hope. Hope is also an engine for humanity because hope gives birth to love and trust. Hope helps us see the beauty in God’s creation. Every institution of man is built from hope. We love our celebrities because we hope to be as successful as they are. That boda boda guy you paid yesterday drove over 5 miles hoping that when you reach, you’ll pay him. We fall in love and get married based on hope of a better tomorrow.

But the balance beyween these two extremes is indeed rare. Either one becomes too strong and eventually denies the other. When fear becomes too much, we lose our ability to love and trust. And when our hope becomes too much, we lose our intellect and sharpness.

But what happens when someone takes his/her life? This is a person who has lost both. The richer you become, the less fears you’ll have and the less hopeful you’ll become. The lack of these two creates and emptiness in your soul that nothing can fill. Life thereby becomes worthless. And the only way to escape life is by death.

What causes such a dreadful situation? Our society is built on materialism. We think that once we have enough money, that would be satisfactory to us. This breeds too much fear in those that do not have it, thereby losing their ability to love and trust. These are the people who go to extremes of even killing, just for the money. In the long run, one loses the sense of purpose and living

The money chase can also breed very high sense of hope. One ends up loving too much, or trusting too much. And this makes one prone to numerous disappointments and heart breaks.

But if we look closely, God already took care of this. We were born into enough love by those around us only that more often we do not see. Our families will always loves us unconditionally. Even when they die or choose to abandon you, as long as you are alive, there will always be people around you that will love you more than you love yourself.

And for fear, we have friends and role models. Your friends wil always push you to be better and in them, you’ll realise that everyone is hoing through the same or even worse.

So we should always hold on to family and friends. Never allow to close relationship with even one member of your family. Surround yourself with as many friends as possible.

And always seek for God. Because no one will love you more than He who made you. And no one is swift in punishment as the Lord of the worlds. Because when you kill yourself, you hastening to what might be eternal suffering yet giving up on the chance to forgiveness.

“…despair not from the help of God. Indeed no one despairs from the help of God except the disbelieving people.” Quran 12:87

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And let there be [arising] from you a nation inviting to [all that is] good, enjoining what is right and forbidding what is wrong, and those will be the successful. 3:104

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And let there be [arising] from you a nation inviting to [all that is] good, enjoining what is right and forbidding what is wrong, and those will be the successful. 3:104

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